Spoilt then non spoilt..

The main cause of spoiled children is a lenient, permissive parenting style. Permissive parents at the extreme may not set any limits or boundaries. A child who is spoiled, largely through no fault of their own, believes that they wield the same power in the family as their parents, and will often speak to them in a dismissive or disrespectful way so as we work through, parenting styles and to prevent this I hopefully show the difference between letting things develop into something worse into the teenage era.

I grew up with a farther that was a jack of all trades had me doing all kind of jobs aged 11 and upwards although some was handy yet, I really wanted to do art and build things even though I appreciated the extra cash. Nowadays there is requirements for being on building sites CSCS cards “I observed as my farther rejected the application infront of me one time” There was also instances on particular jobs where the sight of the finished job example (tileing) didn’t look exactly as I pictured it in my head and observing friends houses doing comparisons in my head.

Sometimes, parents even transfer their former aspirations onto their children without acknowledging if it was in the kids interest. So some children tend to follow someone else’s dream instead their own dream and also for some copy traits of parents behaviours such as work ethics.

He had a slight authoritarian style at times trying to teach me what to do, although he worked very hard very early, his personality was lacking the strength in pass times to keep up with the persona. Weird to say I was aware of this even early as 5 years old.

“Speaking from experience at several points in my life, there is where you let a son figure out how things work and then gesture solutions appropriately timed.” You may be surprised how quickly they figure out what works and what doesn’t! Especially observing incompetence in other trades rather than sticking to being a electrical engineer.

Now with my mother she was more of a permissive and lenient parent. Times at the shop asking for things over, over again and getting what I wanted eventually. Before five years old using baby language to ask for a drink and then replying with a full sentence with a swear word remarkably timed would constitute the early stages of being a brat. Although my farther laughed, he was the one who taught me, question how I know :). The times when things was hard was a shock to the system as my mother was offered pension early at her job and my farther was deteriorating with his drinking habits. The level of Christmas presents before getting what i asked for, to getting absolutely nothing another. The impact changed my attitude in verious ways.

The pressures of keeping things afloat on the weak leadership of my farther made a household full of laughs into a complete hell hole. The drinking got worse and incoherent arguments between parents would destroy the peacefull atmosphere from time to time. There be times where the arguments got really nasty and I would stand up to my farther young as 8 years old and confront my farther! Often my hands be swollen having little affect on my farthers thick head. Inevitabley as I think more into this is, probably why I have the femininity to my character as I’ve observed what incompetence in fartherhood looks like.

The biggest difference between me and that of my farther is the level of commitment to work perfection and looking for the right style of job that fits me perfectly and future endeavours. The shades of what’s not the required quality of living and what is, I understand very well and all faults or shortcomings of my past gives me the desire and drive to do better!

From multiple experiences in parenting myself I can say it’s like having kindergarten cop with a dash of Peter pan. I hate conventional sit at a table methods of teaching. I prefer to give leniency at times when attention spans start to fluctuate. Old style methods not my cup of tea. When it comes to parenting it both not solely upon one or another!